Play and Relationships: the Real Academics

Philosophy · · Amy Wesley · Lead Pedagogist, Bella Vita Early Learning


Research shows that curiosity, resilience, and collaboration in the early years predict long-term success more than early academics. Amy Wesley explains why play and relationships are the real foundation.

By Amy Wesley, Lead Pedagogist

What Is Our Image of Learning?

For many of us, the image that comes to mind is familiar: children sitting at desks, listening carefully, completing assignments, and mastering academic skills as early as possible.

But where did this image of learning come from?

In education, the images we carry about learning quietly shape how we see children and the role of educators.

In early childhood education, we often talk about our image of the child. Do we see children as capable, curious, and full of potential? Or as individuals who need to be directed, managed, and prepared for what comes next?

We also reflect on our image of the educator. Are educators delivering predetermined curriculum or observing from the sidelines? Or are they researchers and co-learners alongside children?

Yet there is another image that quietly shapes them both: our image of learning.

Most of us carry an image of learning shaped by our own experiences in school and the expectations we see around us. Learning has often come to be associated with instruction, measurable outcomes, and mastering academic skills as early as possible.

Yet research in child development tells a different story.

Studies consistently show that social and emotional competencies in the early years, curiosity, resilience, collaboration, and problem-solving, are stronger predictors of long-term success than early academic instruction.

And how do children develop these capacities?

Through play and relationships.

Open-ended block area inviting children to build, explore, and collaborate
Rich play environments invite children into collaboration, problem-solving, and relationships with materials.

Play is one of the most powerful ways children make sense of the world. Through play, children form relationships with one another, with educators, with materials, and with the ideas they are exploring.

When children build, imagine, experiment, and negotiate in play, they are developing relationships with their own thinking, testing theories, and discovering what they are capable of. Learning in the early years grows through connection: to people, to place, to materials, and to meaningful experiences.

Despite this, the push for early academics continues to grow. Children are expected to read sooner, write earlier, and spend more time in structured learning environments.

But research suggests that early academic pressure does not predict stronger long-term academic outcomes. What matters far more are the dispositions children develop through exploration, play, and rich relationships.

If learning is only something that happens through instruction and measurable outcomes, early academics may feel essential.

But if learning is relational, rooted in curiosity, connection, and exploration, then play becomes one of the most important learning tools we have.

When our image of learning shifts, something else shifts too.

Our image of the child expands.

Our image of the educator evolves.

And our understanding of childhood becomes richer and more hopeful.

Perhaps the invitation is simple:

Pause for a moment and consider your own image of learning.

Where did it come from?

What experiences shaped it?

And does it still serve the children growing up in today's world?